Rate Your Inner Nerd
Since I do not want that to be the entirety of my first post in several days, I wanted to share something I was thinking about in the car this morning.
First, let me explain that I have a severe case of Car Tourrets. Usually, I am pretty mild mannered (for a redhead), polite, and empathetic. And as I get older I am even getting a better handle on my swearing… Except while driving.
People can just be so dumb on the road sometimes! ><
Sometimes you can see someone having a fit in their car, and just about make out the four letter words they are screaming (which makes me giggle), but for the most part no one can retaliate. (Well, unless it is one of those extreme roadrage situations… but moving on, quickly…)
I can yell at the windshield, I can grumble to myself, I can form articulate collections of swear words that would usually not be a part of my vocabulary – all from the protection of my lil car.
There is a certain level of anonymity and displacement. It feels that while in the car I am shielded from the thoughts and words of others.
Kind of like the anonymity people proclaim on the internet.
So there I was, swearing at morning rush hour traffic and thinking about this.
Now, whereas I feel protected while I swear to myself, I still do not use this anonymity of crossing the paths of people on the road I will likely never see again as some sort of free ticket to drive like a similar azzhole. I obey traffic laws (except for a few, okie several, miles per hour of speed), I am courteous to other drivers (even if it gets me cut off by other impatient people <sigh> ), I use my signals, I do not cut people off, I stay to the right if I am moving slower than other traffic, etc.
And I yield correctly in roundabouts – even though I absolutely hate roundabouts.
In my personal opinion, I am courteous on the road because I am generally a courteous person. Anonymity does not give me a free pass to be an azzhole. There is no situation where my morals suddenly change.
And I tend to feel that people who abuse this self-conceived free pass are lacking in common courtesy and decency in general.
Which brings me back to internet anonymity. I feel the same way about people who are azzholes on the internet – I am pretty sure they are the same IRL.
Sure, I get upset sometimes, but that is why I can NOT queue up Vent while yelling and NOT send an angry whisper and NOT reply to someone with a vulgar stream of profanities. I can do this all in my personal bubble (like in my car), so that all that anger and nerdrage does not spill over onto people around me.
Well, at least,these are the thoughts that keep me sane and mostly composed when people are completely inconsiderate.
But, do beware the redhead temper…
P.S. = And I suppose “sane” is a relative term.
What are your thoughts on courtesy IRL, on the road, and on the internet/in game?